Happy Birthday To Me: 26 Lessons I've Learned In My 26 Years

So, I'm turning 27 Saturday – Happy Birthday to Me!

It’s bittersweet because who wants to get old, but then again, who wouldn’t want to know what age has to bring?

My birthday has inspired me to share these 'basic', but extremely important things that I've learned in my 26 years and now live by. (Here in Cranston - because Cranston rules the world.)

Everything I discuss below is the end result of either multi-hour long Pinterest binges (Hollaaa to whoever created it!) or personal experiences that have impacted my life. 

  1. Don't be scared to say what's on your mind.

    People are going to judge you if you speak your mind or not. What you believe is an immense part of who you are. Never allow anyone to change YOU.

  2. Own up to your wrongdoings.

    Always say SORRY if you hurt someone. Even if you don’t see it from their perspective - own that you upset them, agree to disagree, and move on. #IsItTooLateNowToSaySorry

  3. Even if you ask for advice, always listen to your instincts, you know yourself best.

    People will give you their opinions, but only you know what's best for you. It's important that you listen to your intuition because if you don't, chances are you will regret it later. 

  4. Smile.

    It's better to be the one who smiled, than the one who didn't smile back. 

  5. Chin up.

    Take the high road when someone does wrong by you because karma is a b*tch and people do get back what they give. 

  6. Use your eyes.

    Eye contact is way more intimate than words can ever be. It establishes trust, shows interest, and is one of the most important parts of interpersonal communication. This nonverbal communication is just as important, if not more important, than verbal. (Can you tell I majored in COM?)

  7. Be kind to unkind people.

    Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. 

  8. Gratitude

    Express it - say thank you.

  9. Be happy.

    If you want to be happy, you have to decide to be. When you wake up, you can't wait to see what kind of day you'll have. You have to decide what kind of day you'll have. 

  10. Confidence is key.

    What you think of yourself is much more important than what other people think of you. Be confident in yourself and that's how you'll be viewed. 

  11. Jealousy is evil.

    Blowing out someone else's candle doesn't make yours shine any brighter.

  12. Never settle for anything less than what makes you truly happy.

    It's a long life darling, a long life. It's not going to get better, it will only get worse. 

  13. Stand up for yourself.

    Because if you don't, no one else will.

  14. What you accept is what you deserve.

    If you want to be treated with respect, then you better NOT accept anything less. 

  15. Give 100%.

    If you don't give it all you have, you're cheating yourself. 

  16. Be Different.

    If everyone is wearing a short dress to that October wedding and you fall in love with a long one - rock it. it's better to stick out and be remembered, than blend in and be forgotten.

  17. Comfort over Intimidation.

    Don't be threatened by, or scared of, anything.

  18. You are who you surround yourself with.


  19. Do the Work.

    Effort returns results personally, professionally, and everything in between.

  20. Positive Vibes.

    Believe and you shall receive.

  21. Travel and Travel Well.

    Experiences > Material Things, plus they last longer. Don't see the world through google earth just because it's 2016.

  22. When one door closes, another one opens.

    Time heals all wounds. 

  23. Look on the bright side.

    There is usually a silver lining to every cloud, so it's important to find it and hold on to it because being an adult is hard sometimes.

  24. Don't be defensive.

    Be able to laugh at yourself. (I do when I write these posts.)

  25. Never regret.

    There was a point in time when you were happy with what you were doing. Don't regret anything because it shaped you into who you are today.

  26. F the Haters.

    Cheers to those who wish us well, and those who don't can go to hell!





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